tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414773738740289262.post6501282110159925894..comments2023-05-10T05:01:21.978-07:00Comments on Box of my stuff: Top 10 Rules for Good GuestsMacotarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08432090367153271349noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414773738740289262.post-64715186581445344932014-08-17T16:20:59.775-07:002014-08-17T16:20:59.775-07:00That's a good point. I suppose I should have ...That's a good point. I suppose I should have mentioned follow house rules. Often people do not want their kitchen invaded by outsiders. But I think the thought is nice. They can offer to help at least.Macotarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08432090367153271349noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414773738740289262.post-84341189565954455322014-08-15T14:13:33.604-07:002014-08-15T14:13:33.604-07:00Nice list. Found by accident.
My only thought: ...Nice list. Found by accident. <br /><br />My only thought: I don't want my guests clearing their plates from the table. I'll clear the table when I'm ready and serve desert.<br /><br />I want them to stay put and out of the way. Donhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15094408773692740906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3414773738740289262.post-87359752961179308222010-06-15T03:29:00.095-07:002010-06-15T03:29:00.095-07:00I love your list! I came across this today because...I love your list! I came across this today because I was looking up information on how others handle house guests. <br /><br />I've had the worst in my home. My husband tries to be so accommodating for the guests, so much so that he can't tell them (his own family) what makes me upset with them in my own home, for fear to hurt their feelings. Years of inconsideration by these same and other guests have made me extremely sensitive about having most guests, and has created drama in the family to where the bad guests don't want to come over anymore. Fine for me, but my husband blames me for not being congenial enough, even though we've discussed the other partys' bad behaviors many times.<br /><br />I've had unwanted guests who have overstayed their welcomes. Wanted guests who have overstayed their welcomes (years - very unwelcome and I told my husband others would never put up with this). Most guests take off their shoes when asked. However, how do you ask all the men that come to sit down when they pee? My husband and son both sit down to pee at home. There's no mess, no consistent urine-smelling bathroom, no toilet seat up. It's the man's job to ask other men to do this. Otherwise, should a sign be posted in our bathroom? It's a tough one. <br /><br />We've had family bring their kids and the little kids start writing on the wall. They do it at home and the parents don't stop them. So of course the kids are going to write on the walls of guests. My husband asked me not to clean it in front of them (it's rude, do it later) but how do you let them know that this type of behavior is unacceptable? If we tell them they are offended. I have no power to tell them or to clean the wall in front of them so they'll "get the hint" that allowing their children freedom in others' homes is wrong, so I am upset about how my house is treated. The guests pick up on my feelings and they don't want to come over anymore. Drama is created, and somehow I'm portrayed as an unwelcoming monster. <br /><br />Guests have come uninvited into my kitchen, taken out my pots and pans and started cooking. They've ruined my blenders, broken items, and made messes. They have demanded to wash the dishes even though I told them to leave them, I'll do them. (It's one thing to ask but if you're told no, kindly walk away.) They've gone through my fridge and have taken things without asking. One kid opened a bag of chocolate chips for cookies out of the fridge and spilled them all over the place, with their adult standing right there drinking something from the fridge. I've had guests empty my candy bowl into their pockets. And the guests don't understand why they feel unwelcome in my house now...<br /><br />I have birds. They've just walked up, opened the cages and let my birds out because they want to see them. They go through my master bedroom uninvited and use the bathroom there. Who said they could do this? <br /><br />These guests have been beyond imposing in my home. I was taught to be a good house guest. I come, I sit on your couch. I talk with you. I compliment you on your decorations and belongings. I don't touch anything. I don't snoop. I ask before I use the bathroom, and I don't look through your cabinets when I'm there. If I use something (even the guest towel) I put it neatly where it belongs. If I need water or a drink, I'll ask, but typically I'd rather suffer in silence for awhile then ask you to get me something. If you serve me something I'll eat or drink only what you've given me. I won't be a hog and eat everything in front of me. Plate of cookies? I might have one or two. Candies? One only thanks, but only because you've offered. I sometimes bring a small gift. I don't stay long-if visiting from out of town overnight only if we've arranged it together, and no more days even if you ask because I don't want to burden or bother my beloved friend.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com