So this is how to make the best of Valentines day for men. This list is best used from the early dawn of the relationship and is by no means a workable plan for everyone. I really can't speak on behalf of women, though I often attempt to. I am reminded by my wife just how much I have no clue as to the inner workings of the female mind. While this may be true, I just can't help trying to attach a working model to what I believe to be factual. So ladies, If you don't want to get mad, don't read any further. If you are in the mood for a good hackle raising, read on McDuff.
10. Valentines day is for single people -
In it's current format. Valentines day is really meant for Secret admirers and casually friendly people, not for married people. If you are going to try to make something of Valentines day. Try to do it thinking of yourself as a single person. Hard to do I know, but that's who it's built for. As such, it should really be taken advantage of when you are first looking to court someone. It works because the other person doesn't really expect or know that you have any feelings other than the occasional uncomfortable leer. Note: If you are predisposed to uncomfortable leering, don't bother with the Secret admirer bit, it won't work, they will already know and mock you mercilessly on the bus going to school the next day. especially if you really thought you were being clever.9. Spend as little as possible -
In every relationship beyond a few dates there emerges a points system. Men are blissfully unaware of this system until they are WAY into the game. I may spend another blog just on this point system because it is FAR too complex to fully develop in this writing. Suffice it to say. more points is better. less points is bad. The key is getting the most points for what you are doing. Valentines day is a designated point ceiling day. That is to say. The most points you can get on Valentines day will be muted by the fact that the day itself exists. For example. Say that when you give your wife flowers AND you are not in trouble with her, you get 10 points. On Valentines day, you will get only 5 points. This is because the day itself automatically subtracts 1/2 of the total point value because it's obligatory. The good news is that there is a minimum point value of 5 points for simply remembering the day with a goofy card and possibly a box of chockies (love the Brits way of putting it). If you want the most point bang for your buck, you need to save the money you would have spent on flowers in February and spend much less on something thoughtful, but cheap. You collect the 5 points for the day. yay. THEN in about 3 weeks when Valentines day is a distant memory, you spend the rest of the money you saved on flowers for a random occasion (once again, you must not already be in the dog house for this to work). The random non-occasion modifier will give you a 2 X multiplier effect on the flowers giving you 20 points. Since the flowers are much cheaper and of better quality after Valentines day, you will spend the same amount of money but really bank on the points. This works because of the 'its the thought that counts' principle. The flowers don't mean much by themselves, but the fact the you were thinking about sending them makes all the difference. Weird, I know.8. Hey Big Spender! -
If your partner works in a large office that has many witnesses, you can score HUGE points by doing the following. This tip flies in direct oposition to tip # 9 but can be done. Once again assuming you are not in any trouble. You splurge and buy the biggest bouquet of flowers they have and have them delivered to the workplace. My friend told me this strategy. He said 'the point is you want to make every OTHER woman in that office wish she had you as a husband and every other man in the office feel like a heel' An interesting strategy. But this strategy comes with risks. DO NOT cheap out on this because the strategy will fall to rule number 9 if you do not give the largest display in the office because everyone only remembers the biggest. There can only be 1 winner in this game. make sure it's you.7. Valentines day is NOT your anniversary -
Your anniversary is your private Valentines day and the actual real one. Valentines day is that shabby sham of a duplicate of your actual wedding day. Whatever efforts and moneys you expend in the pursuit of Valentines day. Make sure you spend twice as much or more for your anniversary. If you don't, you could be in for real trouble. This of course should be modified by relative proximity in the year to your actual anniversary. If your wedding day was some time in say July, then you don't have to worry THAT much. If on the other hand, your nuptuals were sealed say in March, the receipt from Valentines day is probably still in your wallet and you need to make sure you've got things taken care of.6. Get married ON Valentines day -
DOH!!!! Why didn't I think of this when we got married?! Those lucky stiffs that get married on Valentines day get so many benefits it boggles the mind. The media and market place remind you every year of your anniversary making it nearly impossible to forget. Things are pre-built for you to give to your partner. You NEVER actually have to celebrate Valentines day. That is pure genius. If I could only go back in time...5. Sporting events do not equal Valentines day gifts -
I said this list was for the guys. If you are a girl then yes Sporting events DO equal valentines day gifts. What better way of saying. I am uncomfortable doing this and it's painful at best, but I will do it for YOU because I know YOU love it. Turned around though, Unless you are married to a rare flower that actually enjoys sports as much or more than you do, you need to really think this one through. A sports bar before the game is NOT dinner. Going to the game is NOT romantic. Grabbing her as she nearly falls down the stadium steps is NOT an amorous embrace. Just stay away from this. I've always said gifts are for the giver, but in this case, they are definitely not for the receiver.4. 'I really don't want anything for Valentines day' is a DAMNED LIE -
Nearly every guy will have the opportunity to fall for this one at least once in their life. This needs to be translated for the slow witted sex of our species (I learned this from multiple TV commercials. we are surprisingly stupid). This phrase when slowed down and played through special computers says 'I don't want anything for Valentines day, I want something for ME'. This just means they don't like schlocky crap that they sell only for Valentines day. It will take a little more thought to get something understated and yet gets you through the day. If you give her a wet/dry shopvac with a post-it note on it that says H.V.D. with a smiley face and 2 to 5 hearts drawn on it. You will get what you deserve and I hope you and the shopvac are very happy together.3. Diamonds? are you @#%! out of your &!^*# mind?! -
a gift is a gift, but really Jewelry for Valentines day? I know they Jewelery folks are really trying hard to get you a great DEAL on these rocks, but seriously, the bang for the buck on this purchase is so low that you will look at those diamonds every time she wears them and think. I would be watching the big game on those diamonds. Just remember. there is a ceiling on points you will get for any gift and while you are sure to hit that ceiling, you will NOT in any way get your moneys worth. This being said. Large purchases MAY be able to get you out of trouble assuming you have come clean with whatever you have done. If you haven't come clean, your spouse may suspect that you are paying for a sin much larger than she had originally estimated and will remain suspicious. You don't want this at all. The other problem is. Big Jewelry purchases may end up serving to remind your wife of what a putz you can be sometimes and the event that triggered this purchase. Really, there aren't too many ways to win on this one. Save the Jewelry for the anniversary.2. Vacation time!!! -
If you have the time and the funds. Go on vacation. Then you can just wake up in a lovely hotel room and eat some room service and while away the day. You should take a vacation anyway and February is the perfect time to do it because it's still probably cold where you are, it's off season in most vacation destinations and you will both enjoy this event. If you can make it a tradition that every year you have a valentines day vacation so much the better. Whatever you do, DON'T put yourself in the trap of buying your wife a valentines present while on valentines vacation. You have just defeated your whole purpose. The point is being together NOT some crappy card with a sad kitten on it. I don't have any vacation yet this year, so it looks like crappy kitten card time for me :(.1. Anything is better than NOTHING -
If the day falls and you find yourself with nothing to give. Make ANY excuse and either buy or better yet make something to give. If you have put yourself in the situation that we all find ourselves in where one person has remembered and the other hasn't. We all know that there really is no recovering from it, you just have to take your lumps and move on. Remember Valentines day is a war of thoughtfulness and the weapons are cards, flowers, chocolates, and some other stuff *wink wink*. If you are not prepared for V-day. You will go down in infamy. This is what I suggest. I learned this from women and it works. You know how we are always amazed at the propensity of the female for remembering even the smallest anniversary event? It's a flim-flam, and you've been had. They buy a few instant gifts and well meaning cards WELL in advance and when they are caught with their skirts around their knees, they just whip out one of these little life savers and save face as well as the day. So go now and find something that you think will be appropriate and then get the 2nd place item (as long as it's not perishable) and store that away in the garage and that way, when you are caught unawares, you'll at least have a last line of defense.Ladies, I don't mean to make you sound shallow, It's really the menfolk that are, but of course you already knew that. But if we don't have a plan, then we plan to fail and clearly nobody wants that.
